My 10 Rules for Dating My Kids

Especially in our super-silly-sized family of 9, dating our kids is an important part of being intentional with each individual child, staying connected to their hearts, & enjoying them. 🤍

Both Things Can Be True

What you see here: Smiling kids & a family that loves each other, a group of people who laugh & smile & enjoy time together.

What you don’t see: Panic attacks & explosive behaviors & trauma triggers & absolute-misery-no-fun-at-all.

And you know what? BOTH OF THOSE THINGS CAN BE TRUE.

So I keep working today & I look forward to Tomorrow

And when my mothering inevitably falls short, I am forced to remember (*invited* to remember) that there will be a day when all things WILL be made right. The imperfect will be perfected, the broken will be made whole. And all of my fighting & praying & hoping will finally be realized.

I Pray for Eyes to See My Whole Child

It’s an important reminder for me to meet this kiddo with compassion and understanding. They’ve been through so much, it’s no surprise it plays out in such hard behaviors still. Next time I’m frustrated by their choices, next time I’m impatient with their big feelings, I want to remember the empathy I’m feeling right now.

We Must Speak Life & Encouragement & Hope

I am certain this is not the first time I told him that we wanted him here and mom wanted him here and we all fought for him to be here. And. Our kids will internalize what they don’t understand. They will feel guilt & shame & responsibility for things they should never have to carry.

Foster Care is a Bridge

This post isn’t about me. It’s about changing the conversation around foster care & adoption. It’s about understanding that foster parenting & adoptive parenting are very different things.

Thank God I'm Not in Control

Recently, there have been so many times that I wish I could just wrap up my babies—from my 2 year old baby to my 16 year old baby—and protect them & rescue them & make everything ok for them.

Holding Onto Hope

I’ve been fighting (and failing) to hold onto hope for a little while now. But my heart has finally found it—in remembering grace, as it actually is.

“I was a stranger and you invited me in.”

All of your love, all of your work, all of the giving and serving and doing is always about more than the ones you’re doing it for. It’s always ultimately about Him. And for all that you do for them, He will say to you, “You did it for me.”

A Call from the Principle

The call to love a child with a broken past sometimes comes as a call from a principal. It’s a holy call. To die to self and to live in love and to remember always: That above and before being those who love broken people, we’re those who were loved AS broken people.