Tell Your (foster/adopted) Child’s Story

Tell your (foster/adopted) child’s story.

I know, maybe not what you’d expect to hear from me, but I believe it: You need to share your child’s story……..with their teacher.

As you send your kiddo off to another year of school, I believe that one of the best ways you can empower & equip your child is to empower & equip their teacher. You are the very best researcher, keeper, and expert of your child. And you can give their teacher the gift of what you’ve come to learn.

Let your kiddo’s teacher know whatever they need to know to help your child be successful—the trauma history and family tree, the diagnoses and the special needs, the triggers and the trials. And of course, the tools and the techniques, the ways to deescalate and regulate and feel safe. You are entrusting them with your child, you can trust them with this.

The guard you’ve learned to keep up—to hold tenderly the story of your child, so that you can protect them—needs to come down for a time, so that you can protect them. Your child needs a person who knows the whole of them, who can help them be and feel safe.

Maybe you leave out some of the specific details, maybe you talk to your child about what and how you’ll share. But I encourage you to share. Share with your child’s teacher, so they have all they need to know to love and serve and teach your child well.