Parenting Through the Reality of Missed Months

The first months of a child’s life are the most formative. When the building blocks of attachment—of relationship and trust and safety—are laid. When the foundation of how they will interact with others and the world is formed.

And many of us missed those months.

Parenting through the reality of those missed months is hard. But I like to think of it—when it’s hard—as a great privilege.

That we get to go back over our child’s stories and rewrite over the places where they didn’t receive what they should’ve.

We get to play a part in rewiring their brains, creating new neural pathways of order and trust.

We get to play a part in retraining their bodies: you don’t have to be afraid, you are secure.

We get to speak to their little hearts, “You are loved, you are precious, your needs will be met.”