It's About How We Understand the Gospel

As foster parents, the way we think about and pray for our kid’s biological families is crucial. But it’s about so much more than the kind of foster parents we are.

It is about how we understand the gospel. If we believe our kids' parents are beyond hope, cannot be healed, are undeserving of forgiveness, too far past the reach of grace, it begs the question: Are we truly understanding and experiencing the fullness of the gospel ourselves?

Our kids’ parents are exactly as deserving of grace as we are—that is to say: not at all.

We were just as hopeless and stuck, just as undeserving of forgiveness, we are just as desperately reliant on grace.

This should lead us to be the most humble and merciful people, overflowing with gratitude for the grace we’ve received, and praying that others embrace the grace they’ve been invited to as well. 

This is not about reunification. This is about the amazing grace we’ve received making us amazingly gracious. This is about the extraordinary love we’ve received making us extraordinary lovers. This is about being so in awe of the gospel that we live out the gospel in the way we think and act and pray and foster.